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Story Time : Dating in 2018

Who watches Bachelor in Paradise? Did you see the finale? Yes, I know that it’s a reality tv show but I couldn’t help but say to myself “Wow I can relate”. Dating these days isn’t what it used to be, it makes me feel disgusted to be honest. Dating in 2018 is like stabbing yourself repeatedly with a butter knife…. Harsh but true… Keep reading to find out why

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So lets dissect these guys in this age

1.These guys just want to hook up – Guys these days don’t even want to get to know you, they just want to get in your pants. About 2 months ago, I went on a first date with this guy, and all he kept talking about was sex, sex, sex. I was so disgusted and turned off. I just deleted his number afterwards.

2. They tell you you’re great and you’re the best thing, but they still don’t want you – I remember watching Kevin from Bachelor in Paradise telling Astrid that she was the best but he still broke up with her. Then she said “I’m so tired of guys saying that they like me so much and I’m the best but they always end up breaking up with me”. I was like “Yass I can relate”.I mean  just shut up and don’t say anything. I’d rather not hear that bs, thank you. Guys say this to me so much.

3. They don’t make any effort –  Don’t ask me out if you’re not going to make the effort. Just forget the thought. If you’re not going to take me out on dates, pick me up, show some effort then don’t bother. If you feel lazy, then don’t bother asking me out. What’s the point? I want someone who shows me that he likes me.  This guy told me recently that he felt too lazy to pick me up for a date, so I said to him don’t bother. I mean why?

4. Guys in 2018 are players – I mean guys in every age are players but in 2018 it seems more rampant. A couple of months ago I invited this guy I was seeing to Afro fest Mind you, he claimed to be really into me, so I decided to give him a chance. He said he would be there by 5pm but I waited till 6 to ask him where he was. Then he said he was 20 mins away. I waited until 9 pm  and he still didn’t show up. Then I left the fest. When I came home, he didn’t provide and explanation or anything.  And then the next day I told him I didn’t want to see him anymore. Then he called me and claimed that he lost his wallet and “Oh I thought you were enjoying the fest, I didn’t think you would want to see me”. My conclusion was that he was there hooking up with other girls.

5. Guys in 2018 are Assholes – Do you guys remember when Kamil broke up with Annaliese for Bachelor In Paradise over national TV. What kind of asshole move was that? One guy called me a bitch after he was trying to lecture me about stupidness and I told him not to yell at me. It’s like could you wait to show your bad side? I just met you.

Disclaimer – I’m not saying ALL guys are like this, but  some of the ones that I’ve gone out with are like this.

Yes, so this is Dating in 2018, for me. Maybe it’s great for you guys but for me it hasn’t been. But I’m happy for these experiences. They’ve taught me so much about myself and what I want.

And yes, I know some people might be saying, “Oh you’re so picky”, but you know what? I don’t care. You SHOULD be picky, not everyone should get to know you. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.

YOU DESERVE THE BEST!Remember that!

Ad if someone isn’t treating you right Kick them to the Curb. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Because in the end you’re only going to hurt yourself

And yes, I know I sound entitled as hell but I don’t care. YOU SHOW PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. People will only treat you bad if you allow them.

And don’t let anyone make you feel bad for wanting the best.

Also, sometimes you see red flags and sometimes you don’t, but again these are all lessons. Lessons that will help you grow and figure out the kind of person that You Do Want.

Conclusion – Dating in 2018 sucks. Maybe I should build myself a time machine and go back to the 90’s when guys used to be gentlemen and open doors for Women. Do guys like that even exist in today’s age? I can only hope, for my sake, LOL. I’m not worried though, I have all the time in the world, there’s no rush.

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I know I’ve kinda been slacking on this part of my blog but with Work, youtube, creating looks for my fashion blog etc, it has been a lot. And I’ve also been really depressed for the past 2 weeks but I’m feeling a lot better now. I just want to be honest with you all.

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Random Thoughts : Would I Date a Homebody?

My friends and I recently had this discussion about homebodies vs outgoing people. For those who don’t know, homebodies are people who like to stay at  home, watch TV and basically chill all the time.I would consider myself, to probably be more on the Extrovert spectrum. I like to go out, I hate to chill. I’m not saying that I don’t chill, but if I had to choose between chilling and going out, I’d probably choose going out. Staying in, is just really boring to me. I’m just a happy go lucky person! The only time I’m really in my house is if I have to work, sleep or if I’m really stressed out. And I’m not a partier. In fact, I hate parties but I just like to go on adventures. Also, watching Netflix gets boring to me, after a while. Netflix doesn’t even have that many interesting shows son.

 

One of my friends, asked me the other day, if I would seriously date someone, who was a homebody. I had to really think about my answer, because that would be difficult. Not that it would be impossible, just difficult. I mean, if every time I had to force the person to go out, that would be annoying, and if they wanted me to stay in all the time I’d go crazy. It would just be chaos. I guess it makes me realize that I want someone who is as outgoing or more outgoing than I am. Haha, ain’t nothing wrong with that.

 

This discussion, then lead me to think about my friends. I feel like I can relate to, or I’m closer to people who are more outgoing. We have more things in common.I’m not saying that I don’t have homebody friends, I do, I just don’t really understand them. I don’t understand why someone would want to stay in. I mean, we live in Canada, a place that gets extremely  long, cold  winters. Why wouldn’t you want to take advantage of the hot sun?As I mentioned before, I just don’t understand homebodies, but even though I don’t understand them, I still love them. But would I date one though? Probably not.I know, some of you, are probably saying, “Wow, that’s so shallow”. But life is too short to settle.

As soon as a guy says he likes to stay in, I’m turned off. Haha, don’t judge me.My aim in life, isn’t to understand everything, or everyone, or I’d go crazy. I love everyone. HAHA, I’m not a homebody hater, so homebodies don’t come for me. I’m not telling ya’ll to change. I just don’t invite my homebody friends out that much because I know they answer will be no.I’m just showing things from my point of view.The moral of this story? If you’re a homebody or you’re outgoing, don’t change. Be yourself and the right person will come along.These are just my Random thoughts.

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Random Thoughts – Dating Apps Are Exhausting

I know, you’re probably wondering why I’m writing about dating. After all, my blog is about Fashion, Beauty, Lifestyle and Travel. Confused? Keep reading.

Well, I decided to add another category called Random Thoughts. This category will just encapsulate my thoughts on different topics. I’m a thinker, so it’s good to get my thoughts out. I felt like I kinda mixed up my fashion posts, with my life experiences and that’s not what I want. I want each category to represent exactly what it says it is.

So my Random topic for today is Dating Apps are Exhausting

I read an article that said Rihanna broke up with her boyfriend because she was “Tired of men because she gets tired of men sometimes”. After I read it I ended up laughing hysterically because I thought it was so funny. A babe can really relate. You know what I’m saying?Can this be on a billboard somewhere?.This is my mood right now.

I’m single and I’ve been single for about 3 years now. The last time I dated someone was probably in 2016 and that was short lived. That’s another story for another time.I guess you could say I’m attractive but I never really get to meet people. When I go out, I’m always with the same friends, so there’s not a lot of opportunities to meet guys. I also spend a lot of time with my brothers so sometimes when I go out with them people assume that they’re my boyfriend. Or, people assume my best friend is my boyfriend. Or, guys think I’m unapproachable. Or guys just stare at me but never say hello. Haha so many reasons.

I recently joined a dating app. I know, astonishing! I wanted to try something different. Some of my friends told me that they found boyfriends from dating apps, one is even engaged. At first, I was kind of skeptical but I said you know what? Let’s see how this goes. I mean if I never try I’ll never know right? Haha.

It has been 2 weeks and I must say I find dating apps exhausting. I’ve been on 4 dates with 4, very different, guys so far. I know, you’re probably saying ” But 4 dates isn’t even a lot”. Yeah it’s not a lot but after the 4th date I was like “Yep, I’m kind of tired of this”.

I won’t get into specifics. Each guy had different qualities. Two of them were gentlemanly, one just wanted to play around and the other one was very self centered and talked about how hot he looked. Hahaha.

So why do I find dating apps so exhausting? Well……

  1. I can’t be bothered – I wish I could skip the dating part and just end up with the person I’m supposed to be with, But yeah that’s not reality.
  2. Getting dressed up takes time – Like son, can I just go on a pyjama date? Hahaha. The whole process of trying to look good so that your date sees you in a good light is exhausting. You should see my room LOL. Too much work, I want someone to like me for my personality not my looks. Even though I like dressing up, I have my days when I don’t feel like putting on nice clothes.
  3. Sometimes, their personality  or looks doesn’t match their profiles – Sometimes they seem fun or romantic during texts but they’re crass and boring in real life. HAHA. Maybe they think the same thing with me, I don’t know, or care. I once met someone who said that they were 6ft and when I met with them they were my height. I’m 5’7. I had to laugh after the date.
  4. Some people try too hard – You know those “Good Morning beautiful” texts? Yeah, I’ve come to hate them. Haha. I used to think they were cute, but now I find them annoying. Like why do you have to try so hard? I’m not saying we shouldn’t communicate, but everyday? Every morning? Haha, maybe something is wrong with me. Sometimes I ignore texts or I don’t reply till hours later or I delete people’s numbers. Again, I’m just being honest.
  5. I can’t keep up – I’m laughing at myself writing this but I really can’t keep up. Sometimes I don’t remember what you said to me last night or what you said last  week. Sometimes I forget people’s names. I’m just being honest.

I decided to put a pause on the dating app. I don’t know, it just felt too much. The whole thing felt more negative than positive and super exhausting.

Maybe it’s because I work from home now that I don’t go out much but I’m going to start making the effort to go out more and make new friends. I’m going to start exploring again like I used to.

Am I being desperate in trying out dating apps? I don’t think so. If I don’t meet people I just don’t, there isn’t anything wrong with trying out dating apps. As I mentioned before some people have good experiences, some don’t. Plus, I don’t care about people’s opinions, I march to the beat of my own drum.

Will I ever start using it again? Maybe. For now, I don’t like the feeling I get from using it, so I stopped. You know that saying?, “Get rid of what no longer serves you”. Yeah that’s what I’m doing.

Am I writing off dating? Haha, no. I’m just going to try real life.

Why be exhausted when you can enjoy life?

Disclaimer – I’m not telling people to not use dating apps. Do what you feel comfortable doing.  If you want to try it out do so, if you don’t want to, don’t.It’s not for everyone. This is just my personal experience from using it.

Have you ever tried any dating apps? How was your experience? Did you like it? Did you hate it?

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