Releasing Negativity

Have you ever had some really negative thoughts? Thoughts like “I’m not pretty enough” or “I don’t deserve this job” or, “No one is going to love me”. Do you worry about things that you have no control over? Whether it’s self imposed or something else, negative thinking can be a big obstacle in our personal development.

It’s a struggle that each of us go through daily. Being positive, takes a lot of work but it can be achieved. Instead of doing the easy thing and drowning in negativity, why not work at being more positive?

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Here are some full proof ways of releasing negative thoughts which I practice as well

  1. Whenever you start to feel worrisome, smile – Acknowledge that your worries are just an old habit that you’re choosing to release. Negativity is a choice and by smiling you’re telling negative thoughts to leave you alone.

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2. Take Deep Breaths – I have anxiety problems so this helps me to calm down. As you exhale say “I’m letting go”. Remind yourself that you don’t have to choose negative reactions any longer.

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3.Focus on something else – Sometimes, when I feel a negative thought coming on, instead of wallowing I try to focus on something else. I go clean my room or read a book to keep my mind focused on something else

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4. Be Grateful – Whenever I feel negative thoughts coming on I remember to be grateful. Gratefulness puts things in perspective and helps me to feel at peace. I thank God for my family, I thank God for a roof over my head etc. After doing this, I feel so much better.

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5) Don’t believe what you think – When my mom got sick I had thoughts of “Oh I’m going to have schizophrenia too and I’m not going to be able to have kids because they’re going to have schizophrenia too”. I felt paralyzed by my thoughts .My manager was the one who told me “You’re not going to have schizophrenia, you’re going to live a happy life”. That really changed my mindset. Believe in yourself.

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Releasing negativity isn’t easy, but, you have to start somewhere if you want to be happy.

You can start with these affirmations

  • I release fear and negativity, I choose to find joy in the present instead.
  • I choose to release fear.
  • I choose to have power over my thoughts.
  • I choose  to have a more peaceful attitude everyday.

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I’m not saying that, you’re going to be in a happy bubble everyday  and nothing is going to affect you. If that were the case we would be probably be in heaven right now. But in the same way that happiness is a choice so is negativity.

You can choose to wallow in negativity or rise above it and release it.

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Why I like Online Shopping

Online shopping is not for everyone, maybe that’s why I like it so much. All you have to do is put your items in your shopping cart and you’re done! No hard lifting, no stress.So easy!

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I’ve been shopping online now for a long time. Do I go to the mall? Yes, sometimes but I’m often disappointed.

So, why do I like it so much?

1) I can get the new arrivals before they arrive in the store – Sometimes, I’ll see something online and want to purchase it but, when I go into the store they say they haven’t received it yet. Like what? I like my clothes fresh out the warehouse you know what I’m saying?

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2) You don’t have to wait in line – Have you ever been inside Zara on a Friday? Girl, you should see that line. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Who wants to spend hours in a line when you can have your clothing delivered right to your door.

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3) You get to stand out – Online shopping allows you to stand out. You get the chance to wear one of a kind pieces that no one else has. Every time I wear something unique people ask me “Where did you get that from?” and I’m like “Online!’.

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4) It’s easy – All you need is your credit card or visa debit and that’s it. LOL. You don’t have to spend hours walking through the mall looking for stuff. You just go online and search for what you want and BAM you purchase it and it’s delivered to your door. It’s like magic!

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5) Online has what I want – Have you ever gone into the mall and couldn’t find what you wanted? Yeah, that’s me. I often go into the mall with a vision and most times the mall doesn’t have my vision. P.s. mall, can you get my vision? Hahah.

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Online shopping is really convenient. A lot of my friends say that they could never do it. They ask me “So how do you know your size?”, well, from experience girl.

The first time I bought jeans online they were so tight! But over the years from going to the store and knowing what my size actually is, I now know how it works. You could say I’m a pro now, hahaha.

I only go into the mall really if I’m close by to one, or to test out makeup in Sephora.

As I said before online shopping isn’t for everyone but it works for me. I love it, it’s so easy!

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How to be Happier

People might think that happiness is elusive, it’s not. Just because you’ve had a lot of sad days, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be happy. Bad days don’t last. Yes, sometimes life  circumstances might occur that are out of our control, but happiness can be attained. God didn’t place us here, to wallow in sadness, he wants us to be happy. God says “Though weeping may endure for a night, Joy, comes in the morning”.

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I’ve often feel like I don’t deserve to be happy, or I shouldn’t feel happy because of this, or that. I used to feel so guilty. But you know what? Tell that voice to shut up. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. You deserve to laugh after all you have been through, you deserve that house, you deserve that new job. Stop feeling guilty because God wants you to be happy.

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How can someone feel happier? Well, here are some tips that help

Play an Upbeat Song– You know that song you like? Yeah, that one that makes you get up and dance? Yeah play that. And get up and dance. I like playing Cardi B’s “I like it”, to get me in the dancing mood or some of Kesha’s old songs. Dancing makes me happy.

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Go Outside– Fresh air, is good for the soul. If you’re feeling stuck or sad just go outside it will do wonders for you, try it out.

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Make Plans– Even something small like going to the movies to see that film that you’ve wanted to see with a friend will make you happier. I like going out at least once per month. If I don’t go out sometimes I start feeling blue.

Get off Social Media and Find Something to do– You wanna know something? Endlessly scrolling through social media is not healthy. Get up and go do something. Go call a friend or go for that run that you’ve been planning since last week. The only reason, I’m on social media so often these days, is because I have to keep up my engagement and for my blogging. I’ve deactivated my Facebook so many times in the past and honestly, I felt happier. Find a hobby, clean your house, that’ll make you feel better.

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Express Gratitude – Sometimes when I’m feeling blue, I  start listing off all the things i’m grateful for.I feel so much happier and lighter afterwards. I say things like “I’m grateful for my 10 toes”, “I’m grateful for the roof, over my head”, “God, thank you for my family, I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have them”.

Be kind – One day, last year, when it was really cold, I helped this blind guy find the bus stop and I helped him get off the bus as well. I felt really good about that. I couldn’t stop thinking about how, if I wasn’t there, there would be no one to help him. That made me really happy that day. Sometimes the smallest acts  of kindness can do wonders for others and for your soul as well.

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Treat Yourself – Girl, go on that shopping spree, or go for that massage. This will break you out of that rut that you’re in.

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Let things go – Negativity isn’t good for anyone. That person that you hate from 3 years ago is enjoying their life and what are you doing? Hmm?. Holding on to things will only make you angry and unhealthy. If you don’t know how to let things go you will never be happy. Leave the past in the past.

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Be positive – My philosophy is that, a positive attitude always goes a long way. I say it to my coworkers all the time, and when I do I always feel like some motivational speaker or something LOL. But it does go a long way. Mindset is everything. The computer broke down at work? Still a good day. You forgot your jacket at home? Still a good day.

I’m not saying that you’ll never have bad days. In fact, happiness is something that you have to work on consistently. I’m also not saying you’re going to be walking around giggling all day. But, happiness is a choice. You can choose to be Happy or wallow in sadness. Choose Happiness. Life is too short to not be HAPPY.

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My Fight With Depression

I’ve been depressed for the longest time but it’s not something that many people know because I’ve never really talked about it. People would always say things like “Oh you’re so happy”, but little did they know, that I was not.

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So, what is depression? Depression is defined as ” A state of feeling sad; marked by feelings of hopelessness, inactivity and dejection”. I remember feeling depressed at 18 because my life wasn’t where I wanted it to be. I felt so hopeless. I would sleep all day and wake up at 4 pm at times.

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At one point, I even tried cutting myself. I had thoughts of killing myself daily. At church or around my friends I would pretend as if I was fine but I wasn’t. Fast forward to 2012 when things became worse.

That year, my mom had a manic episode. She had just come home from church in hysterics which was very baffling. We really weren’t expecting that, at all. My mom had never displayed any signs of mental illness, so to see her behaving like that was a shock to my system. My dad called the pastor and he came and prayed for her and she eventually calmed down and went to sleep. We had no idea what to do so we left her for a bit.

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On my birthday, I went shopping with my best friend and then she decided to come home with me because I had plans to go to dinner later. When I came home, my mom didn’t know who I was so she started cursing at me and told my best friend to get out because we were lesbians. She then proceeded to run after my friend and I, so my friend decided to leave. After my friend left my mom tried to run after me as well so I ran to my room and locked it. I waited until she was calm and then I left the house and went to the Mcdonalds washroom to change for my dinner. I didn’t want to disappoint my friends and the only person who knew what was going on was my best friend. I was really sad and scared. The next day, I told my dad that something had to be done because my mom was only getting worse. To sum it all up, my mom was taken to the hospital by police escorts and diagnosed with Paranoid schizophrenia. I was really sad during that time. I didn’t want to live. I felt the lowest of low. The person who I knew to be my mom was no longer there. I was devastated. I felt like my world was over.

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I didn’t actually start feeling better, until 2 years ago. A friend of mine, invited me out, to a movie called ” Collateral Beauty”. In it, the main character loses his daughter and he just stops living, but then, some of his friends came up with a plan to help him get better. One quote that stood out to me was ” Just be sure to notice the collateral beauty. It’s the profound connection to everything”. This made me think about everything that I had been through and that I had a purpose in life. It taught me to never give up on myself. Did I have depressive episodes after that and did my mom have manic episodes after that? Absolutely, but I learned to fight through the feelings.

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Here are some tips that helped me to fight my depression

  • Be active- Whenever I feel depressed I like to go for a run. Running clears my head and helps me feel less sluggish. I run for 15 mins and do other exercises to get my blood pumping. Do what you can.
  • Don’t Isolate yourself- I used to isolate myself all the time whenever I felt depressed but I realized it only made me feel worse. Confide in a friend, or, when your friends invite you out, don’t say no. You’ll feel a little better trust me, I know.
  • Do things that you once liked to do- If you once liked to draw, go draw. Sitting on the couch doing nothing will only make you feel worse.

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The point of this blog post is to share my story and let you know that there is hope. You can survive depression. I am not a victim, I’m a Survivor! Hope this helps someone out there.

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Outfits : Spotlight on Dungarees

In Canada, the weather can be very volatile. Recently, we’ve been having somewhat warmer days, as recent, as last week. Dungarees, are a great option for this transitioning weather. They’re long, so if it gets cold, you won’t be freezing and they’re very versatile.

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The ones that I’m wearing are from Asos.com. They’re made of polyester and they’re very comfortable. Throw on a T- Shirt underneath and you’ll look like one of the cool kids, or add an off the shoulder top and you’ll look like a bohemian babe.

 

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Dungarees are making a comeback this season and I’m here for it.

 

I chose these black ones because black, is my happy colour and I feel like my best self wearing black.

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You can wear these to brunch or on a hot date with your man. They are very effortless and fashionable and you won’t break the bank trying to purchase one of these.

 

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How To Make Green Juice

People ask me all the time “What’s in your smoothie?” or “what does that taste like?”, or they’ll say stuff like “eww it’s green” or, “that’s nasty”. I’m not a health freak or anything but I like to take care of myself, given my family history with illness. I lack energy and most times I have to take iron tablets to feel better, so what better solution than going the natural way?

 

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Green Juice is easy to make, really easy. All you need to get is a green leafy vegetable and a fruit or, if you wish to forego adding fruit, you can just use veggies. I like  adding fruit to my juice because it adds taste but everyone has their own preferences.

Once I drink green juice in the mornings I feel more energized and just overall better.

Green juice tastes like fruit, really, (You’re probably saying “stop lying”), but I’m not lying, it really does taste like fruit juice. Many people have this misconception that green juice tastes very bitter or nasty but it doesn’t, trust me, if it did I wouldn’t be drinking it EVERYDAY. And I wouldn’t lie to you, I’m a very straightforward person.

So, how does one make one make green juice? Well…….

  1. Add half cup of water to your blender
  2. Add Kale leaves, or any other green leafy vegetables that you may have e.g. Spinach, broccoli etc
  3. Add 1 banana or any other fruit you might have e.g. apple, strawberries, blueberries etc
  4. Add 2 ice cubes
  5. Blend and pour into a glass

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Green juice promotes healthy skin

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Green Juice promotes weight loss

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Green Juice promotes improved energy

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Green Juice promotes overall health

I’m not trying to convince people to drink green juice. I’m just sharing my experience with green juice and how it makes me feel.This post is for the people who want to know how it’s made or they’re curious about what it tastes like. It tastes really good that’s why I drink it everyday and it makes me feel really good

I’m curious, what natural drink makes you feel good?