The Water Challenge

I’m not a health nut or anything. In fact, I’m far from it. So, what gives me the right to speak about health? Well, I’m trying to be healthier. I’m trying to live till I’m 100 years old, ok?

Well, recently, I’ve been on The Water Challenge.  What is the water challenge? My definition of the water challenge is, drinking as much water as possible in a day. Meaning, I drink at least 8-10 glasses of water daily.

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I started this challenge because I noticed that I don’t drink enough water. Throughout the day, I’d probably only drink one glass of water and I said, “Hmm, this is probably not healthy at all Raceen”, so, I decided to make a change.

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At first, it was really hard. You know, going from only drinking one glass of water, to drinking 8-10 glasses of water is hard. I had to force the water down, literally. Haha. But as the days progressed it got easier. They say it takes 21 days to form a habit right?

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So, what are some benefits of drinking more water?

  1. Drinking More Water Helps Treat Headaches – I have migraines often, so I find that drinking water helps with the intensity. As soon as I feel a headache coming on I drink lots of water to make it go away.
  2. Drinking More Water Helps with Weight loss – I’ve noticed that since I’ve started drinking lots of water, I’ve lost a little weight. This is because water increases your metabolism and helps you feel full longer. It is recommended by scientists to drink water half an hour before meals to feel fuller longer.
  3. Drinking More Water helps with constipation – This is probably too much information but I’ll say it anyways. Drinking more water has made me poop more. Before I rarely pooped. I’m glad that it’s cleaning out my system.

Again, I’m not a health nut. I’m just trying to be healthier. I gotta start somewhere you know what I’m saying?

Also, I’m not forcing anyone to do what I do. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

This is what I’ve been doing and I just wanted to share.

What health challenges are you taking on this week? Is it hard to be healthy?

Will you join me in this challenge?

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Random Thoughts : Bullying Can End

Have you ever seen the movie The Duff? If not, you should watch it. Like seriously. If you haven’t watched it, are you even human? I don’t think so. Why did I bring this movie up? Keep reading.

The Duff, is essentially a movie about a girl, who gets bullied and called ugly and guys don’t go after her because they think her friends are hotter. Seems familiar? Can you relate?

Right now, you’re probably wondering what the word, Duff means. Let me enlighten you. Duff means Designated Ugly Fat Friend. Yeah, people are dumb.

So how can I relate to this movie?

Well, believe it or not I was bullied in high school. I can’t relate to the fat part in Duff but I was always picked on. I guess my face said, “Pick on me”?. Sometimes I would just cry and wonder when it would end. He would call me “Ugly” and “Big Head” everyday. Then he would just laugh at me. My parents had no idea what was going on because I was afraid of telling them.

I remember I had this accident in class. My period had come unannounced and it spilled on my uniform but I didn’t know. When I got up there was blood all over my uniform and the bully just laughed at me and said, “You’re bleeding”. I was so embarrassed! If it wasn’t for him no one would know that I had an accident

I had beautiful girlfriends in high school, I still do. All the guys would flock to them or only talk to me because they wanted a chance with my friends. I used to feel so ugly. I often wondered “When is someone going to notice me?”. My self esteem was so low.

I wondered when would this all end?

Eventually, I learned to ignore the bully. And he eventually left me alone. I was so relieved.

To all those suffering or who have suffered from bullying just know you are not alone. It’s  not going to last forever. Those same bullies will move on to something else, or they’ll stop.

Bullies are just people who have low self esteem, have nothing better to do, or people who were, themselves bullied. Don’t let them get to you. You will survive. Bullies think that high school is all there is to life. They don’t think that there is life beyond high school and that’s sad.

I really feel bad for bullies.

I survived High School and I survived that bully and you can too. My friends and my perseverance helped me.I also learned to love myself and believe that I was beautiful despite that guys comments about me being ugly. He wasn’t even cute, so I don’t know what or who gave him the right to call someone ugly.

If I was looking for someone to date, he would never be my choice at all.

The only thing I wished I did more, was stand up for myself. I wish I had told that bully to go sit somewhere and leave me alone. But you know, in those moments when you’re being bullied, you’re not really thinking about what to say, or do. You just feel really afraid of the person who is bullying you.

But just hold on. If you can, find the courage to stand up for yourself. If not report that person to your teacher or tell someone. No one deserves bullying. No one.

Keep ya head up!

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Releasing Negativity

Have you ever had some really negative thoughts? Thoughts like “I’m not pretty enough” or “I don’t deserve this job” or, “No one is going to love me”. Do you worry about things that you have no control over? Whether it’s self imposed or something else, negative thinking can be a big obstacle in our personal development.

It’s a struggle that each of us go through daily. Being positive, takes a lot of work but it can be achieved. Instead of doing the easy thing and drowning in negativity, why not work at being more positive?

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Here are some full proof ways of releasing negative thoughts which I practice as well

  1. Whenever you start to feel worrisome, smile – Acknowledge that your worries are just an old habit that you’re choosing to release. Negativity is a choice and by smiling you’re telling negative thoughts to leave you alone.

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2. Take Deep Breaths – I have anxiety problems so this helps me to calm down. As you exhale say “I’m letting go”. Remind yourself that you don’t have to choose negative reactions any longer.

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3.Focus on something else – Sometimes, when I feel a negative thought coming on, instead of wallowing I try to focus on something else. I go clean my room or read a book to keep my mind focused on something else

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4. Be Grateful – Whenever I feel negative thoughts coming on I remember to be grateful. Gratefulness puts things in perspective and helps me to feel at peace. I thank God for my family, I thank God for a roof over my head etc. After doing this, I feel so much better.

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5) Don’t believe what you think – When my mom got sick I had thoughts of “Oh I’m going to have schizophrenia too and I’m not going to be able to have kids because they’re going to have schizophrenia too”. I felt paralyzed by my thoughts .My manager was the one who told me “You’re not going to have schizophrenia, you’re going to live a happy life”. That really changed my mindset. Believe in yourself.

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Releasing negativity isn’t easy, but, you have to start somewhere if you want to be happy.

You can start with these affirmations

  • I release fear and negativity, I choose to find joy in the present instead.
  • I choose to release fear.
  • I choose to have power over my thoughts.
  • I choose  to have a more peaceful attitude everyday.

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I’m not saying that, you’re going to be in a happy bubble everyday  and nothing is going to affect you. If that were the case we would be probably be in heaven right now. But in the same way that happiness is a choice so is negativity.

You can choose to wallow in negativity or rise above it and release it.

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How to be Happier

People might think that happiness is elusive, it’s not. Just because you’ve had a lot of sad days, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be happy. Bad days don’t last. Yes, sometimes life  circumstances might occur that are out of our control, but happiness can be attained. God didn’t place us here, to wallow in sadness, he wants us to be happy. God says “Though weeping may endure for a night, Joy, comes in the morning”.

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I’ve often feel like I don’t deserve to be happy, or I shouldn’t feel happy because of this, or that. I used to feel so guilty. But you know what? Tell that voice to shut up. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. You deserve to laugh after all you have been through, you deserve that house, you deserve that new job. Stop feeling guilty because God wants you to be happy.

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How can someone feel happier? Well, here are some tips that help

Play an Upbeat Song– You know that song you like? Yeah, that one that makes you get up and dance? Yeah play that. And get up and dance. I like playing Cardi B’s “I like it”, to get me in the dancing mood or some of Kesha’s old songs. Dancing makes me happy.

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Go Outside– Fresh air, is good for the soul. If you’re feeling stuck or sad just go outside it will do wonders for you, try it out.

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Make Plans– Even something small like going to the movies to see that film that you’ve wanted to see with a friend will make you happier. I like going out at least once per month. If I don’t go out sometimes I start feeling blue.

Get off Social Media and Find Something to do– You wanna know something? Endlessly scrolling through social media is not healthy. Get up and go do something. Go call a friend or go for that run that you’ve been planning since last week. The only reason, I’m on social media so often these days, is because I have to keep up my engagement and for my blogging. I’ve deactivated my Facebook so many times in the past and honestly, I felt happier. Find a hobby, clean your house, that’ll make you feel better.

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Express Gratitude – Sometimes when I’m feeling blue, I  start listing off all the things i’m grateful for.I feel so much happier and lighter afterwards. I say things like “I’m grateful for my 10 toes”, “I’m grateful for the roof, over my head”, “God, thank you for my family, I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have them”.

Be kind – One day, last year, when it was really cold, I helped this blind guy find the bus stop and I helped him get off the bus as well. I felt really good about that. I couldn’t stop thinking about how, if I wasn’t there, there would be no one to help him. That made me really happy that day. Sometimes the smallest acts  of kindness can do wonders for others and for your soul as well.

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Treat Yourself – Girl, go on that shopping spree, or go for that massage. This will break you out of that rut that you’re in.

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Let things go – Negativity isn’t good for anyone. That person that you hate from 3 years ago is enjoying their life and what are you doing? Hmm?. Holding on to things will only make you angry and unhealthy. If you don’t know how to let things go you will never be happy. Leave the past in the past.

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Be positive – My philosophy is that, a positive attitude always goes a long way. I say it to my coworkers all the time, and when I do I always feel like some motivational speaker or something LOL. But it does go a long way. Mindset is everything. The computer broke down at work? Still a good day. You forgot your jacket at home? Still a good day.

I’m not saying that you’ll never have bad days. In fact, happiness is something that you have to work on consistently. I’m also not saying you’re going to be walking around giggling all day. But, happiness is a choice. You can choose to be Happy or wallow in sadness. Choose Happiness. Life is too short to not be HAPPY.

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My Fight With Depression

I’ve been depressed for the longest time but it’s not something that many people know because I’ve never really talked about it. People would always say things like “Oh you’re so happy”, but little did they know, that I was not.

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So, what is depression? Depression is defined as ” A state of feeling sad; marked by feelings of hopelessness, inactivity and dejection”. I remember feeling depressed at 18 because my life wasn’t where I wanted it to be. I felt so hopeless. I would sleep all day and wake up at 4 pm at times.

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At one point, I even tried cutting myself. I had thoughts of killing myself daily. At church or around my friends I would pretend as if I was fine but I wasn’t. Fast forward to 2012 when things became worse.

That year, my mom had a manic episode. She had just come home from church in hysterics which was very baffling. We really weren’t expecting that, at all. My mom had never displayed any signs of mental illness, so to see her behaving like that was a shock to my system. My dad called the pastor and he came and prayed for her and she eventually calmed down and went to sleep. We had no idea what to do so we left her for a bit.

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On my birthday, I went shopping with my best friend and then she decided to come home with me because I had plans to go to dinner later. When I came home, my mom didn’t know who I was so she started cursing at me and told my best friend to get out because we were lesbians. She then proceeded to run after my friend and I, so my friend decided to leave. After my friend left my mom tried to run after me as well so I ran to my room and locked it. I waited until she was calm and then I left the house and went to the Mcdonalds washroom to change for my dinner. I didn’t want to disappoint my friends and the only person who knew what was going on was my best friend. I was really sad and scared. The next day, I told my dad that something had to be done because my mom was only getting worse. To sum it all up, my mom was taken to the hospital by police escorts and diagnosed with Paranoid schizophrenia. I was really sad during that time. I didn’t want to live. I felt the lowest of low. The person who I knew to be my mom was no longer there. I was devastated. I felt like my world was over.

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I didn’t actually start feeling better, until 2 years ago. A friend of mine, invited me out, to a movie called ” Collateral Beauty”. In it, the main character loses his daughter and he just stops living, but then, some of his friends came up with a plan to help him get better. One quote that stood out to me was ” Just be sure to notice the collateral beauty. It’s the profound connection to everything”. This made me think about everything that I had been through and that I had a purpose in life. It taught me to never give up on myself. Did I have depressive episodes after that and did my mom have manic episodes after that? Absolutely, but I learned to fight through the feelings.

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Here are some tips that helped me to fight my depression

  • Be active- Whenever I feel depressed I like to go for a run. Running clears my head and helps me feel less sluggish. I run for 15 mins and do other exercises to get my blood pumping. Do what you can.
  • Don’t Isolate yourself- I used to isolate myself all the time whenever I felt depressed but I realized it only made me feel worse. Confide in a friend, or, when your friends invite you out, don’t say no. You’ll feel a little better trust me, I know.
  • Do things that you once liked to do- If you once liked to draw, go draw. Sitting on the couch doing nothing will only make you feel worse.

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The point of this blog post is to share my story and let you know that there is hope. You can survive depression. I am not a victim, I’m a Survivor! Hope this helps someone out there.

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