How To Get Over Someone

We’ve all been there, crying over Tom, or Harry, thinking that we will never get over them. Thinking that our life is over. Sounds familiar? Relationships are hard, whether it’s a friendship, or romantic. Breakups are even harder. It’s tough getting over someone, especially when the relationship was good. How do you cope without this person when they were such a big part of your life?

Today, I want to give you some tips that have helped me get over someone, whether it was a relationship or friendship.

  • Delete their Number – This is the best way to get over someone. It shows finality. Now you can’t call them because their number is no longer in your phone and you can get over them quickly.
  • See Things For What They are – Look Harry wasn’t the best for you ok? He was a shitty person, but you were so in love with him, you couldn’t see it. Tom wasn’t nice to you, he used your emotions against you. The faster you realize this, and see things for what they are, the easier you’ll be able to get over that person.
  • Focus on Something Else – This one is really big. Put down the phone, stop stalking his instagram page and focus on something else. What hobbies do you have? Do you draw? What about that project that you said you were going to finish but didn’t. The more you focus on other things, the less time you will have thinking about that person who broke your heart. Eventually, they’ll fade away from your mind.

I’ve had a lot of heartbreaks in friendships as well as  from rejection. It’s not easy, you feel like your whole world is crashing down. You feel like your world is just ending. It sucks!

But you know what? You live and you learn. Heartbreak is apart of life. Life isn’t always going to be sunshine and roses. The person who you like is not always going to like you back. The person you’re in love with isn’t always going to be your boyfriend. Jessica won’t always be your best friend. It’s just life!

It also teaches me that everything happens for a reason. Maybe Johnny isn’t the person you’re supposed to be with. Maybe Pam isn’t supposed to be your best friend for life. That guy that rejected you? Maybe he wasn’t meant to be in your life. Not everything is meant to be, you know?

Love isn’t everything. Finding a best friend for life isn’t everything. There’s more to life than having a boyfriend or a best friend.

Live your life. Do the things that you’ve always wanted to do. Focus on yourself. Life is too short to stress over things that aren’t going to matter in the end.

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Advice : How to Find Your Purpose

fullsizeoutput_1df4.jpeg“Finding my purpose was so easy”, said no one ever. I mean, if it was so easy everyone would know what they wanted to do. Everyone would be happy. But, finding your purpose can be a struggle for most of us, sometimes, it takes years to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life. Today, I want to give some advice on How to Find Your Purpose.

First, let’s define the word “Purpose”. According to Dictionary.com, purpose is defined as, “The reason for which something exists or is done‘. So some questions to ask yourself is, “What’s important to me?” and “What can I do with my time?”

Here are some tips to figure out what’s Important to you which will lead you to your purpose hopefully

  1. Find your passion – I truly believe that your passion leads you to your purpose. What were you interested in as a boy or girl? Was it music? Was it poetry? For me, creating has always been my passion since I was a little girl, you would always see me drawing clothes and creating stuff. My parents have always wanted me to go into other fields though, and I’ve tried, but they just aren’t for me. My other passions also include helping people, which I hope this blog does.
  2. You have to be able to make a sacrifice – So if you want to be a Doctor are you willing to stay up all night studying? Are you willing to sacrifice going out with your friends to draw that painting? Nothing in life comes easy, so if you want something you have to be willing to work overtime for it.
  3. What keeps you up at night? – I’m always on my phone, even late at night. You could say that I’m addicted to my phone. But I’ve found what’s behind being on my phone is my need for self improvement. I’m always reading blogs and watching videos on how to improve myself, strategizing etc. Always reading about stuff that will help me improve my skills. Reading books on my phone has helped me become a better writer, and Instagram has helped me learn to market myself. Look, 2 weeks ago I didn’t know how to edit videos for Youtube. Now with these tips I’m on my way to becoming my own boss. I’m also now taking a marketing class online to improve my skills.
  4. Get to doing Stuff – Yes, you’re passionate about Writing, or doing hair but what have you done? When’s the last time you wrote something? I mean, it’s good to have passions but it’s what you do with them that matters. Stop talking and start doing.
  5. You have to be willing to embarrass yourself and learn how to handle failure – Look, when I started this blog I had no clue on what I was doing. I asked some of my friends for feedback and some of them said, “Yo, this is bad” but that didn’t stop me. My first Youtube video was a disaster but I just laughed at myself and continued. Also when I started no one really read my blog, yes, I felt discouraged at first but that just propelled me to work even harder.

Some people are very fortunate to know what they want to do from the moment  they can talk. For many others though, it’s a struggle. And sometimes parents don’t help because they want to force their dreams on their kids.

What did you want to be when you were a little boy or girl? What do you want your legacy to be when you leave this world?

Purpose =What’s Important to You

Don’t live your life living someone else’s purpose. Live your Own.

Finding your purpose is simply finding something that defines you, something that fulfills you, something that you would stay up all night for.

But Purpose requires action. So that Book that you’ve been thinking about writing? Start writing! Even if it’s in your journal. Want to become the next Justin Bieber? Start making Youtube covers.Work on your craft everyday. And look, if you’re worried that your passion won’t gain you any money, everything can be monetized in this age of social media.

The point is, start somewhere. The only thing we have really, is time.

Hopefully these tips will help someone, I don’t have it all figured out but I’m learning and sharing as I go.

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Story Time : Dating in 2018

Who watches Bachelor in Paradise? Did you see the finale? Yes, I know that it’s a reality tv show but I couldn’t help but say to myself “Wow I can relate”. Dating these days isn’t what it used to be, it makes me feel disgusted to be honest. Dating in 2018 is like stabbing yourself repeatedly with a butter knife…. Harsh but true… Keep reading to find out why

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So lets dissect these guys in this age

1.These guys just want to hook up – Guys these days don’t even want to get to know you, they just want to get in your pants. About 2 months ago, I went on a first date with this guy, and all he kept talking about was sex, sex, sex. I was so disgusted and turned off. I just deleted his number afterwards.

2. They tell you you’re great and you’re the best thing, but they still don’t want you – I remember watching Kevin from Bachelor in Paradise telling Astrid that she was the best but he still broke up with her. Then she said “I’m so tired of guys saying that they like me so much and I’m the best but they always end up breaking up with me”. I was like “Yass I can relate”.I mean  just shut up and don’t say anything. I’d rather not hear that bs, thank you. Guys say this to me so much.

3. They don’t make any effort –  Don’t ask me out if you’re not going to make the effort. Just forget the thought. If you’re not going to take me out on dates, pick me up, show some effort then don’t bother. If you feel lazy, then don’t bother asking me out. What’s the point? I want someone who shows me that he likes me.  This guy told me recently that he felt too lazy to pick me up for a date, so I said to him don’t bother. I mean why?

4. Guys in 2018 are players – I mean guys in every age are players but in 2018 it seems more rampant. A couple of months ago I invited this guy I was seeing to Afro fest Mind you, he claimed to be really into me, so I decided to give him a chance. He said he would be there by 5pm but I waited till 6 to ask him where he was. Then he said he was 20 mins away. I waited until 9 pm  and he still didn’t show up. Then I left the fest. When I came home, he didn’t provide and explanation or anything.  And then the next day I told him I didn’t want to see him anymore. Then he called me and claimed that he lost his wallet and “Oh I thought you were enjoying the fest, I didn’t think you would want to see me”. My conclusion was that he was there hooking up with other girls.

5. Guys in 2018 are Assholes – Do you guys remember when Kamil broke up with Annaliese for Bachelor In Paradise over national TV. What kind of asshole move was that? One guy called me a bitch after he was trying to lecture me about stupidness and I told him not to yell at me. It’s like could you wait to show your bad side? I just met you.

Disclaimer – I’m not saying ALL guys are like this, but  some of the ones that I’ve gone out with are like this.

Yes, so this is Dating in 2018, for me. Maybe it’s great for you guys but for me it hasn’t been. But I’m happy for these experiences. They’ve taught me so much about myself and what I want.

And yes, I know some people might be saying, “Oh you’re so picky”, but you know what? I don’t care. You SHOULD be picky, not everyone should get to know you. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.

YOU DESERVE THE BEST!Remember that!

Ad if someone isn’t treating you right Kick them to the Curb. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Because in the end you’re only going to hurt yourself

And yes, I know I sound entitled as hell but I don’t care. YOU SHOW PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. People will only treat you bad if you allow them.

And don’t let anyone make you feel bad for wanting the best.

Also, sometimes you see red flags and sometimes you don’t, but again these are all lessons. Lessons that will help you grow and figure out the kind of person that You Do Want.

Conclusion – Dating in 2018 sucks. Maybe I should build myself a time machine and go back to the 90’s when guys used to be gentlemen and open doors for Women. Do guys like that even exist in today’s age? I can only hope, for my sake, LOL. I’m not worried though, I have all the time in the world, there’s no rush.

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I know I’ve kinda been slacking on this part of my blog but with Work, youtube, creating looks for my fashion blog etc, it has been a lot. And I’ve also been really depressed for the past 2 weeks but I’m feeling a lot better now. I just want to be honest with you all.

XOXO

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Korean Beauty, Is it a Myth or Is it Real?

It’s no secret that K Beauty is one of the biggest trends now. Everyone, and I mean everyone is into K Beauty. K Beauty is all about nourishing your skin so that it looks amazing without makeup. I’m all about that. Today, see me put K Beauty to the test by trying out their sheet masks! Keep readingfullsizeoutput_1d1c

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I love masks Ok? But recently, after hearing how good Korean sheet masks are I decided to purchase some. I didn’t want to purchase just one so I went on Amazon to see if they had any deals. I found one with 8  sheet masks in it. I really liked the Green Tea and Aloe Vera ones the most.

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My Skin before the sheet mask. Cleansed
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The sheet mask is very hydrating. When I have it on I can feel it working because my skin stings, just a little. I leave it on for 15-20 mins as per the package’s directions. When I take it off I can see the dirt on the mask, which shows me that it gets deep into my skin. It doesn’t really smell like Green Tea or anything but I’m OK with that.

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As you can see, my skin looks smoother afterwards and brighter after I take off the mask and wash my face with warm water.

Conclusion- I love Korean sheet masks! Some masks give you acne or irritate your skin but these K Beauty masks soothe my skin. No it doesn’t take away my spots but it makes me feel like I can go out there without makeup you know? And that’s my aim. I’ll give these 5/5 stars. I really want to try more K beauty products because they are great.

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Random Thoughts : How does Social Media Really Make you feel?

 

fullsizeoutput_157eDo you spend a lot of time on social media or none at all? Do you spend hours scrolling through Facebook checking out what Sandy is doing? How does it make you feel? Do you feel happy, do you feel sad? Does it make you feel anxious or calm? I’ve had my issues with social media in the past, and it stinks. Keep reading to find out more about my history with social media. Story Time!

I first signed up for Facebook, maybe in 2009, I wasn’t one of those people who was into social media, it was as if it didn’t exist to me. I preferred face to face contact, but my friends roped me into getting it, so I eventually caved and signed up. Bro, I became so addicted. It was like Facebook became my life. It was annoying actually, even when there was nothing on it, I’d be online. Don’t get me started on Instagram. Whew Chile!

I started to see the negative effects that social media had on my psyche in 2015. I would be on Facebook seeing people going on vacations, living their best life, or what appeared to be their best life, and I would start to feel so depressed. I started to feel less than. I felt like I had nothing going on in my life. Sometimes I would hide people’s posts so I wouldn’t have to see what they were doing. It was a really tough time for me.

Eventually, decided to deactivate my Facebook for a whole year. I chose Facebook because this was where everyone would be posting the most back then. I didn’t deactivate Instagram but I began to post less. That year, was very therapeutic for me. I learned to focus on my own life and find joy in that. There was so much that I missed out on, simply because I was so focused on Facebook.

During that year I learned  enjoy moments more and be present. It was so refreshing! That’s when I think I developed my love for photography.

After the year, I felt better about social media, so I decided to reactive my Facebook account and I started posting on Instagram again. I had a better relationship with social media. I didn’t let other people’s posts affect how I felt about myself. I felt great.I feel great even now. Now I can log into any social media platforms and feel fine.

The lesson in all this? Don’t compare your life to others. You don’t know their backstory, you don’t know how they got there. Comparison only makes you feel sick. Everyone is on a different journey. Some people have to work extremely hard, some people have parents who help them out, some people are rich, some people have sugar daddies. Haha.Or, some people just pretend to have it all together. Your journey is your own, focus on your own path and build on that.

Also,it’s good to unplug sometimes. I’m not saying to do a year like I did. Unplug for a couple hours, or a day. Go out in nature. Enjoy life. Be present. Something that I try to do when I go out with friends is, to be off my phone. I only really go on, if I’m taking pictures for my blog or making funny videos with my best friend.

I mostly use social media these days as a learning tool and to promote my blog. I don’t feel sad  or compare myself to people on social media anymore. Whenever I see a picture of them going on vacations doing things I just say, “Oh nice” and keep it moving. I just don’t have the time for that. You know what I’m saying? A girl’s got an empire to build.

Life is a journey, enjoy the ride. Don’t spend your life comparing yourself to others when you should be living it. You only live once. XOXO

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