Gratefulness = Happiness

 

IMG_0505As the year closes I can’t help but reflect on 2018 and just be grateful to God for all that he has done for me. As the song says, “Great is your mercy towards me, your loving kindness, I see”

It’s been a great year! Yes, there have been sad moments but it’s life. You can’t have the good without the bad. I remember when I used to pray for the things I have now. And no, this isn’t about boasting.I’m just genuinely grateful to God for what he has done for me. God is Good ya’ll.

Have you had those moments where you’re blissfully happy and you’re wondering, “How did I get here?”, or, through your storm you’re wondering, “How am I going to get through this?”. And then you remember that God is reason why you are happy now, and you’re grateful and He is the one that is going to get you through your storm because the evidence is there that he has done it before. Have you?

One of the happiest moments of my life this year was when my mom agreed to go to the hospital to get treatment. It was hard to get her there but I remember just praying and asking God to let her agree to go. Because I don’t know if most of you know this, but it’s hard to get someone who has mental illness to get treatment. And she is well now thanks be to God.

Another happy moment that I remember is when I started this blog. I had no idea what I was doing but this is something that I’ve always wanted to do. I used to waste so much time focusing on things that didn’t matter, that I didn’t realize I had a purpose. I didn’t realize that I had these talents waiting to burst out of my skin.

And sometimes we’re so caught up in our problems that we don’t realize how blessed we truly are. Sometimes we don’t realize how far we’ve truly come.

Looking back, I would never had dreamed to have the job I have now, working from home and taking care of my family. All I have now is because of God. I could have never made it this far without Him. And I know that this is just the tip of the iceberg, I know that he has bigger plans for me and I’m grateful. I just have to keep going and trusting him.

Life isn’t easy for anyone. I’ve lost friends along the way, some family members but I’m grateful for that because God is setting me up for the ones who are mean’t to be in my life. I’m grateful for the group of friends and family that I have because they’ve really been there for me throughout the years.

Something that I’m learning along the way is to, “Give thanks in everything “,because it makes room for the things that are truly mean’t to be. Not everyone you meet is supposed to be on your journey. And that’s ok.

One of my goals for 2019 is to be more grateful. Gratefulness eliminates complaint and worry, because you can rest assured that God is with you. He has been with you in the past and He will continue to be there in the future as long as you trust him.

Gratefulness is the key to happiness.

G = H

What is something that you are grateful for this year? It doesn’t have to be big. It can be something small like “I’m grateful for good health”. Comment below.

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Healing From Trauma

Hi Guys! How are you doing? I feel like I haven’t written anything on the advice and stories part of my blog in a minute. But it’s actually only been like a week. Haha. I missed you all.

Today, I want to touch on the topic of healing.  I want to sort’ve update you all with where I’m at with that. One thing I always try to do on this blog is to be honest with you, my readers. So here goes…

You never know how damaged you are until you find yourself having a severe anxiety attack and you’re just so numb to what’s going on around you. You never know how seriously something affects until you’re sitting on your bed just crying your eyeballs out.

These things happened to me in October, severe anxiety and depression over something that I thought I had gotten over. Over my mom being mentally ill , my Dad leaving etc. After the whole ordeal it made me say to myself, “Girl you need to heal from your trauma”.

Me being traumatized? It felt so weird to say that to myself. But I also thought to myself, “If you weren’t still traumatized by the events of last year would you be having this anxiety attack right now?”

I realized that there were things that I really needed to heal from. So many things.  I garnered that I had of anger inside of me because of those traumatizing situations.

So that’s what I’ve been working on. I’ve been trying to heal from my trauma. I’ve been journaling, doing breathing exercises, painting, exercising and listening to therapy videos. The videos have been helping me a lot to be calm and to be at peace

I want to be my best self. I want to be less anxious. I don’t want to carry anger and baggage into my relationships. I don’t want to feel numb.I want to be happy. I want inner peace.

And if I don’t heal from my trauma I’ll never find happiness. And I don’t want that. I want to be a good friend, girlfriend (even though I’m single LOL), and a good daughter.  So that’s what I’ve been working on.

I’m feeling calmer now than I have felt in months because I’m working on myself and just trying to heal from my traumas. Inner peace is where it’s at baby!

So if you’re in the same situation that I’m in right now, don’t give up. I’ve ascertained that healing takes time. It’s doesn’t just happen after the tough event has passed. You have to work at it everyday. Every single day. Don’t be discouraged. Take each day one step at a time. Just try to be in a better place mentally than you were yesterday.

What about you? What have you been trying to heal from? What traumas have you faced?

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Story Time : We Don’t Talk Anymore

Hi, guys it’s been a while since I have updated the Advice and Stories part of my blog. I missed you all so much! Welcome back!

Today’s blog post is titled, “We Don’t Talk Anymore”.

There’s this new show called “A Million Little Things”, have you seen it? It’s so good! The premise of the show is that ‘there are a group of friends who are intertwined in each other’s lives, realize that they need to start living until one of them suddenly  dies by suicide”.

During one of the episodes, (Sorry, spoiler alert) after their friend dies, the group of guys go to a football game and the guy named Gary says this,

“I spent almost 950 hours sitting next to John and I had no idea that he was depressed. Did you? Did you?NO! You want to know why? Because we don’t talk. The last time we said anything deep was when we were in that elevator. We were more honest with each other before we were friends. Now we do this. We sit shoulder to shoulder like guys, what we’re doing right now and the truth, the very sad truth is that we don’t really know each other”. 

This really hit home for me, “We don’t talk”. I mean how many of us really talk to our friends?  I mean, really really talk to our friends?You know, when you’re in a really depressing state, or you tell them some deep dark secret?. And I am guilty of this too, because I don’t really talk to a lot of my friends. I have 100 contacts in my phone and I rarely ever take up the phone and say, “This is what’s going on”. Sometimes I’ll wait till when the anxiety takes over, and that’s when I’ll start talking.

And I’m not saying that you have to tell your friends every single detail that happens in your life, because that’s just impossible. If we talked more don’t you think less people would be depressed and suicidal because they would have people to talk to? And yes, I know that even with people to talk to, some people still take their lives. And yes, I know it’s not your job to be you friends therapist. I know, but it’s more healing to talk about things than to hold them in.

I have my moments too, where everyone thinks I’m so happy but underneath it all I’m so sad. Because I don’t want to burden my friends with my problems. And sometimes I really don’t want to talk about it. And there’s the reverse too where my mind is so much on my problems that I don’t even notice my friends sadness. Which is really bad.

But sometimes, get off social media! Get off Instagram and Facebook and pick up the phone and call your friend. Ask them how they’re doing! Sometimes send them a text. Hang out with your friends and forget your phones! Get to know them again! You never know what someone is going through.

I know, you can’t be there for all  of your friends, because who really can? But make the effort! And yes I know that not every friend can handle depressing stories, but find the ones who can.

After all, if you don’t talk to your friend, who can you really talk to? Who do you have to talk to?

What did you think of this post? Are you someone who picks up the phone and calls your friend or do you like to keep things to yourself?

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